unfair

you assume too much and the amount of crap you give to one over the other is unfair.
both are in the wrong, whether one is expected to act this way and is predictable doesn't justify that the other is more wrong because they 'should' know better.
you assume that that person knows and observes but really that person knows shit all. that person doesn't live life analyzing every single thing that comes their way. that person lives life as it comes and doesn't realise what happens to them until it turns into one messy mess. then that person is left in a cycle with loose ends and no closure.

time is off the essence. figure it out for yourself.